3 Skills to Unleash Your Powerful Inner Coaching Guru

Josh Dykes

Let’s face it, coaching can feel like a superpower. You get to witness people unlock their potential, crush their goals, and transform their lives (think superhero landing, but with fewer capes). But here’s the thing: not everyone wields this power with equal finesse.

I (your friendly neighborhood coach, Josh from SPEAKup) have spent years running mastermind groups, watching countless interactions unfold. And guess what? I cracked the code on what separates the coaching rockstars from the well-meaning but slightly-off-key crowd. It all boils down to three essential skills.

Skill #1: Listening Like a Jedi Master

Active listening isn’t just about nodding politely while someone drones on. It’s about becoming a mind-reading ninja, deciphering not just the words, but the emotions and subtext lurking beneath.

Here’s how the coaching rockstars do it:

  • They reflect: They paraphrase what the client (let’s call them the “hot seater” in mastermind lingo) is saying, ensuring they truly understand the core issue. This builds trust and shows the client they’re being heard (unlike that time you tried venting to your dog about your boss, and got a confused head tilt in return).
  • They avoid leading: Resistance is futile! If you jump in with advice too early, you might steer the client down a path that’s not quite theirs. Let them guide the conversation, and you’ll uncover a treasure trove of insights on the way.

Skill #2: Patience: The Art of the Slow Burn

Ever heard of Nelson Mandela? Dude was a legendary leader, and guess what? He was known to be the last person to speak in meetings. Patience, my friend, is a power move.

Here’s why the coaching rockstars embrace it:

  • Thinking time: Great coaches don’t blurt out the first solution that pops into their head. They take a beat, analyze the situation, and craft a response that truly adds value.
  • Space for others: Giving others (including other mastermind participants) the chance to offer their perspectives fosters a collaborative environment and unleashes the collective wisdom of the group.

Skill #3: The Question is Mightier Than the Answer (Seriously!)

Humans are wired to find solutions. The urge to jump in and “fix” things is strong, but resist it, grasshopper! Here’s why the coaching rockstars are question masters:

  • Empowerment: By asking thoughtful questions, you guide the client to discover their own answers. This fosters ownership and increases the likelihood of action. After all, an idea you discover feels way more exciting than one handed to you on a silver platter.
  • Deeper Dives: Questions are like pickaxes, digging beneath the surface of the problem to uncover the real root cause. This leads to more sustainable solutions that address the core issue, not just the symptoms.

The Takeaway: Unleashing Your Coaching Superpower

Remember those less-than-stellar coaches in the mastermind group? They were eager to help, but their “been there, done that” advice often fell flat. Here’s why:

  • Uniqueness matters: What worked for you won’t necessarily work for everyone. Great coaches recognize this and tailor their approach to the individual client.
  • Ownership is key: Handing out advice removes the responsibility from the client. When they discover the solution themselves, they’re more likely to take action and make it stick.

The Bottom Line:

Mastering these three skills – listening, patience, and the art of the question – is the foundation of powerful coaching. By honing these techniques, you’ll transform from a good listener to a transformational coach, empowering your clients to achieve their wildest dreams (and maybe even throw on a metaphorical cape while you’re at it).

Now get out there and start practicing! Remember, with a little dedication and these essential skills in your coaching arsenal, you’ll be well on your way to coaching greatness.

If you’re ready to overcome your limiting beliefs and become a successful coach, I encourage you to attend one of our 1-Day Coaching Diplomas to start your coaching journey. For those who want more speaking support, here is the link to our speaking training. It’ll help you to develop a plan to achieve your goals and build a successful coaching business. You can also find our beginners guide to becoming a coach here.


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